When relationships end, it can be emotional for both partners. With the right kind of support, you can get through it in one piece. Even when your partner is trying to do their best, they may not meet your needs or expectations.
Most people know when the time has come to end a relationship, but what are some signs that could help you decide?
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12 signs that you should break up with your partner
Here are the 12 most important signs that you should break up with your partner:
1. They ignore the things you want to spend time together doing
If you’re never allowed to make plans for your time together or if they never suggest new things to do together, it means that you’re not part of their life anymore.
If you’re being considered a convenience to them, then there’s no room in their life for you.
2. You’re not happy
If you’ve been with your partner for an extended period and you’re not happy, it is usually an indication that they are not meeting your needs, and you want to break up with them.
You love them, but you find it difficult to tolerate them.
If you’re with your partner because they have qualities that you admire, and you can’t imagine your life without them, you are being fair to them by continuing a relationship that is not mutually beneficial. You might be with them, but this is something you need to acknowledge and accept.
3. You’re not feeling appreciated
The first step to saving a relationship is being aware that you’re not feeling appreciated. If you notice that you feel constantly disrespected or overlooked, take action.
Come clean, asap.
No relationship is worth the battle. Give them an ultimatum, and see if they’ll stay with you.
4. Your partner is insensitive to your needs
You shouldn’t put up with someone who treats you poorly just because you’re dating or engaged to them. As your partner may be oblivious to your needs, you may be experiencing emotional abuse. There are some red flags to look out for in your partner that indicate their lack of empathy and even possible personality disorders.
Remember to be patient with your partner until they can realize their behavior isn’t right. But if you feel you’ve been the one doing all the work and not receiving much in return, this may be a sign that the relationship isn’t good for you.
5. Your partner has a lot of bad habits
In a healthy relationship, there’s a good balance of giving and taking. You don’t always have to be the one to fix or change your partner’s problem or behavior. If it’s more of the latter, it may be time to end your relationship.
6. You can’t trust your partner
It’s not uncommon to come to realize that someone you thought you could always trust, isn’t trustworthy at all. Relationships can be complex, and it’s impossible to know exactly what they’re thinking or doing at any given moment.
If you have issues with trust, you may have a few conversations, try to understand the problem and work on it. If you don’t get anywhere, or your partner continues to do questionable things, your best option may be to end the relationship.
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7. Your partner doesn’t want to commit
If you have a strong feeling your partner is pulling away or pushing you away, it’s time to get out of the relationship. If you’ve already started acting out of guilt, or fear of the unknown, it’s time to end it.
You need to make sure you’re both on the same page with the breakup; otherwise, it could end up with a devastating impact on both of your lives.
8. You don’t have a plan B
The breakup is going to be hard on both of you. You should create a strong plan as soon as possible. This could involve an agreement between you and your partner that allows you to live with or without each other. Be realistic about it. Your relationship has been going on for a long time and it is hard for you to imagine life without the other.
9. You and Your Partner aren’t on the Same Boat (In Terms of Goals)
For you to be happy in a relationship, you need to be happy yourself. There’s a reason why we are all attracted to people with the same goals as ourselves: You’ll be able to fully explore the world with someone who believes in the same things as you. But if you don’t share the same goals, then you’re not going to be able to grow together.
It’s important to keep in mind that any relationship is going to have ups and downs. You’re going to have fun and arguments and you’re going to have passionate make-ups. But at the end of the day, you need to work together to reach your goals and make your relationship work.
10. You feel its a karmic relationship
Think about it: How many relationships you’ve been in where the end has come with no hard feelings?
This is because a relationship can be a big sign of karma. Even if you are a good person, karma has to reward you, and it will have to be on your terms. Karmic relationships end after karma has taken its revenge.
11. The spark is gone
Does your relationship used to be hot and exciting, but now feels stale and boring?
Consider it as being stuck in a relationship that’s in decline.
You’ve stopped talking about your feelings
Are you used to your partner reassuring you with touch or words? If so, then it’s time to cut the cord.
12. Your relationship has been unhealthy from the start
When you notice yourself feeling negative thoughts or not wanting to spend time with your partner, things are probably not healthy. When you have suspicions that your partner is lying to you, or seeing someone else, it’s also a sign that it might be time to end things. Make sure that this isn’t just part of a period of depression.
You might also have been keeping up these feelings for longer than it should be acceptable, and this could have an impact on your health. If you’ve developed a whole other personality around your partner, this is also something to be concerned about.
Sometimes it may take a while for you and your partner to get the point. There could be a lot of emotions at play. While breakups can feel like the end of the world, remember that this is a chance to find better companions, better partners, and better relationships. While you may want to deal with your emotions and get through them, there is no need to put yourself through unnecessary pain.
This article is meant to provide you signs with a process to help you go through a break up with your partner. However, know that it is just one step and it does not mean the end of your relationship.
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